We all play
this game in one form or another. We count up the points. We keep track.
Because we must not get behind in the game. We must always stay ahead in the
game. This is the game: You bought me lunch last time, I must buy lunch this
time. You invited us over for dinner last time, it’s our turn to invite you
over for dinner this time. You gave me a birthday gift so I MUST give you a birthday
gift of equal or greater value. I can’t look cheap. You took me to see a show.
So I must take you to an even better show sometime soon.
It’s all
about transactions. We’ve reduced human relationships to value laden
transactions. This mind set comes from the idea that we live in a world of
scarcity. There may not be enough to go around, so I must not be beholden to
anyone.
But what
if we believed there was enough? Then we could treat one another with a sense
of abundance.
Jesus lived
with a sense of abundance. He came along and turned our thinking on its head.
He said that when you give a dinner, you should not invite people who might
invite you in return so you will be repaid. Don’t invite your friends and
relatives. Invite people who can’t repay you. Invite the poor, the crippled,
the lame and the blind. And you will be blessed. You will be blessed because
they cannot repay you. You will know the feeling of abundance. You have so much
to give that you can give without any thought of what you will get in return. “You
will eventually be blessed in the resurrection,” Jesus said.
The idea
is to stop counting and start blessing. To stop counting and start blessing. What kind of freedom would there be if we
could just bless others, rather than thinking about what we might get in
return?
School
has started this past couple of weeks. Can you imagine how wonderful it would
be if children could offer friendship to one another without worrying about
what they will get in return? No worries about status or the pecking order.
They could just see someone who looks lonely and offer to sit with them in the
lunch room. Children would look around on the playground for the child who has
no one to play with and they would include that child for games. When it’s time
to form teams for projects, no one would be left out. People would just
naturally include everyone. This is what it means to bless one another in the
way Jesus calls us to bless one another.
When I
was a child, my dad worked a lot of nights. Mom and I would sometimes go out to
eat. I would always notice older people sitting in the restaurant eating alone.
They looked so lonely; it made me sad. What would have happened if mom and I
would have decided to share our table with one of those lonely people? Just
think of the conversations we could have had, hearing about their lives and
what they had experienced. But we missed out, because the social convention
does not allow for strangers to offer to sit together in restaurants. It would be
weird. We stayed in our world of scarcity, thinking we did not have enough time
to share. But what if we had imagined our lives of abundance, with plenty of
time to share with those older people. What a blessing it might have been if we
had broken social convention and offered to sit with one of those lonely, older
people.
At Pride
yesterday, we people of The Village did our best to offer hospitality to people
attending Pride. We probably spoke to a couple hundred people. I am sure of one
thing. I am sure there were people who attended Pride who avoided the “church
booths.” They avoided us because they are skeptical about churches for good reason.
Churches have not, as a whole, been hospitable toward gay, lesbian, bisexual,
transgender and queer people. Churches have not shown an abundance of blessing
toward LGBTQ people. So I imagine there were some hurt feelings yesterday as
people saw church tables at Pride. “What are THEY doing here?” “Are they here
to draw us in, and then condemn us?”
But of
course we tried to be there with sincere hearts of openness. We offered a cup
of cold water to drink and a place to sit and rest under a tent in the shade.
We offered hospitality. And at our best, we did not expect anything in return.
Of course, I would be lying if I did not say we hope that we might get some new
visitors to The Village because of our efforts yesterday. But more importantly,
we wanted to offer healing and friendship. Our efforts were not based in a
theology of scarcity but rather in a theology of abundance. There is room at
the table for everyone. All are welcome.
Jesus
said, “When you host a dinner party, don’t invite people, thinking they will
give you something in return. Rather, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame
and the blind.”
Jesus
wants us to open our hearts to people who are in need. What does this look like
in Toledo, Ohio in 2016? It means being a church that welcomes all people
without judgement. I have seen people come to worship here who would be judged
in other some other churches: people covered with tattoos, people with old
tattered clothing, transgender people, and people who tell us they are
struggling to recover from drug and alcohol abuse. For the most part, I have
been proud of us as a congregation. We have welcomed all people and treated all
with respect and dignity.
When it
comes to this table, we do not make any judgements. This is an open table. We
say this every time we celebrate Holy Communion. Everyone is welcome to come to
this table. There are no tests to see whether or not you are worthy to come.
This is the table of grace. This is the table of God’s blessing. Everyone is
invited to this table.
Do you
realize how important that is? We receive God’s grace every time we come to
this table. In the form of bread and juice, we receive Jesus’ body and blood
given in sacrifice for us. We are reminded that God loved us so much that God
gave God’s own child so that we might know the fullness of God’s love. This
table is a symbol of God’s acceptance of us.
There are
no scorecards at this table. No one is keeping track of what social obligations
you owe. This is the table of grace. This is the table of abundance. At this
table there is enough. At this table YOU are enough.
In a
little while we will celebrate Holy Communion. When we do, I want you to
remember that Jesus welcomes everyone to this table. He calls us to welcome
everyone to our table. This is our call – to be the church that welcomes
everyone. So let us never exclude anyone from this table. Let us go out to find
the poor, the lonely, and the oppressed, and let us bring them here. All are
welcome at this table. This is the table of abundance. Amen.